I thought that this article should be posted in the column section because it is that important.
It is a rare married couple that does not argue and argue often. However, when an argument turns into an angry exchange, there is damage done to the heart, which often needs a supernatural remedy to heal the wound. That is confession and a firm purpose of amendment. There is also a need for restitution. If you have stolen money from another it is common sense that one must pay back what one has stolen. But do we make restitution when we rob a person of the love they need by inflicting pain instead? We must dry the tears that we have caused to be shed, be they visible or invisible. We must say, “I am sorry” for whatever it is that we have said in anger. Or not said, when a thank you was in order. Anger can be expressed by a fuming silence just as effectively as harsh words. The “I do” of a marriage contract means that we commit to making our spouse happy, not just secure, or, in the case of the husband, well-fed. “Love of my life, I want to make you happy.” Let spouses help each other to do that. Let anger not enter the door. It’s a killer.
Kate Veik, CNA: Of the countless Catholic couples who have come through Father T.G. Morrow’s office in Washington D.C. for marriage counseling, two remain imprinted in the priest’s mind even today.
In many ways, these two Catholic couples were the ideal; they were open to life, they formed their children in the faith and they frequented the sacraments.
But both of these marriages fell apart. The culprit? Anger. Read more here.
